Wow. I've already gotten several amazing responses. Keep them coming if you feel you have something to say! I tend to have "conversations" within the comments, so check back if you wanted me to answer something that I missed.
I just wanted to tack on some notes to the below novel. I really wouldn't mind at least talking to another RE, but I've already been to the 2 that are accessible to me. If you live in Florida and have an RE you absolutely love, feel free to leave his or her name in the comments. You can put it in anonymously if you don't want anyone to know where you are. The only thing I'm concerned about with that is that I've been through a family doctor, a previous obgyn, 2 more obgyns here, 2 RE's and an endocrinologist. They all seem really eager to help me, but then once they see my blood levels and such, they get really confused as to why I have such reproductive problems and either give up on me or push IVF. Some of them never give up, but just keep parroting that I am "really healthy and there's no reason you won't get pregnant soon!" Obviously that's a load of pucky. My endo is still working with me, but her next plan is metformin (glucophage), and I'm very leery of that considering the only time I went on it, I stopped ovulating even on meds.
The reason I think TCM may actually help me is that my cycles seem to go wacky at any change. For example, I've recently fallen off my healthy eating bandwagon and along with the traveling and my getting sick, that coincides with my cycles getting all wonky again. I chart, and during all that time, my temps are all over the place. However, now that I've settled back down again and started to try to eat healthier, they're stabilizing. BUT - they're stabilizing at really really low temps, which usually means nothing good for my body. That's what I like about charting. I do see some evidence of what's going on in there after doing it so long and evidence of what looks like normal for me.
So if little things like that can affect my cycle so crazily... perhaps herbs will too. Vitamins and supplements seem to help me a lot too, so why not herbs? At least herbs in the hands of a very skilled practitioner, and I do believe Dr. L is. The only other woman I know who went to her had no pregnancy after years of trying with western medicine. She gave up on it because it was too expensive and she was tired, and just kept on with some herbs. Months later, she was pregnant. The problem with that is that it could be purely coincidental but oh well.
I'm also really beginning to think that that one wacky cycle I had before I stopped ovulating again recently might have been a chemical pregnancy. My luteal phase was overly long, and I had every symptom I had with my last chemical pregnancy... including the really really awful period following. If it was, I'm obviously still messed up even though I ovulated on my own. I'm also starting to wonder if it's possible that I'm IR since you can't find that on regular tests. There's SOMETHING else wrong with me. I suspect it's hormonal, but how to know?
So there's more info for ya. Have a field day. :)