What I Wish I Could Say

Repeating things other people have said with the conviction that you were actually there or said them yourself and/or stealing others' ideas makes you neither awesome nor smart.
Just because you do not vocally and obviously take part in the abuse of someone does not mean you are not complicit in the abuse in other ways. Get off your high horse.
Being frustrated with a situation or wanting to do better and understanding my good fortunes are not mutually exclusive modes of thought.
Being "tough" and "showing them who's boss" also doesn't always make you awesome. Furthermore, just because I don't agree with that method or choose not to use it does not make me suck.
Just because you purposely project an aura of "awesome" also does not necessarily mean that is the case. Some of the most humble and understanding people I know are actually pretty damn awesome.
Taking advantage of my insecurity or willingness to question myself does not mean I am an idiot peon and you a genius of royal blood.

And one pet peeve: Sometimes I hate hearing how women need to "stop trying to have it all," and they may be "happier." You know what? Some thrive on juggling work and home. Leave them alone. And in many many situations, women don't have any CHOICE in the matter. I KNOW I'd be a better human with less on my plate. I KNOW I'd do a better job at work with fewer hours and could be less tired and more present for my baby. I simply CAN'T cut back on my hours. I hate when articles etc make it about "choices" (similarly with breast feeding and all the "shocking statistics" on how many don't "exclusively" breast feed) when they know damn well for a huge fraction, there is no real choice at all.

There. I feel so much better. Trying to change my negative self talk and the "doormattishness" that makes it easy for people to beat me down.

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